Friday, March 25, 2011

Another Friday Fill in...This time on the right day!

Thank you Wifey at Wife Of A Sailor! I appreciate these! It's the one time I really get to blog without thinking too much, yet thinking a lot all at the same time! I hate trying to come up with topics on what to write!

1. What is your must have gadget? submitted by Flying High With My Flyboy
I would have to say either my Slow Cooker or my iPhone. Those are the two things I use the most out of gadgets.

2. How does your adulthood compare to what you imagined it would be like when you were a little kid? submitted by L to the Third
Honestly, it's completely different, like most. I thought I would be a professional dancer (ballerina or broadway), a teacher and a mommy. I was going to be married to either my childhood best friend or my dance teacher or my childhood next door neighbor. I've got one of the three professions, but I'm not married to ANY of those people...I've only known my husband 2 days longer than I've been with him. Oh and the other life I was going to live as an with my parents forever...that DEFINITELY hasn't happened!

3. What is your favorite chocolate recipe? submitted by Our First Deployment
I haven't done too many things with chocolate for myself. I love boxed brownies with frosting, brownies or cake in ice cream cones with frosting, no baked (boiled) cookies, german chocolate cake, and S'mores...all those are just easy to find recipes online. Oh and Dog Chow (Muddy Buddies is what Chex calls them)...I like those too...

4. How do you deal with military life when it gets to be to much or to hard? submitted by Combat Boots And Pointe Shoes
Honestly, I don't know. I was with a Marine before I met my husband, I only saw him 2 times while I was with him and it wasn't too much of a hardship because I was in high school and the beginning of college so I was focused on school. With my husband, he's had more of a hard time with the military life than I have. I've always just kept busy (especially when I got pregnant with our first child and ever since) and time just flew by while he was away. It does get frustrating during offcrew when he's home later than most because of his MOS, but that's just how it is so I live with it. Even when he wasn't going to be able to be home for our second child's birth, I was more okay with it than he ever was. He still feels bad almost 8 months later. I was prepared to go through labor/delivery alone as soon as I found out he was going to be out to sea. I was just made for this life I think.

5. What piece of advice would you give a new Military spouse facing their first deployment? submitted by The Albrecht Squad
Stay busy! The more you keep you mind off the time away and on other things, the better. Keep a journal for him to read of what you've done that day, but don't dwell on the fact he's gone, keep living life so he doesn't feel worse than he already does that he has to leave you. Count your blessings every day...there are still people, including other MilSpouses, that have it MUCH worse than you! And most important, always remember, every moment he's gone is a moment closer to him being home!

That last one was hard for me because I am so independent and I knew more of what I was getting into than my husband knew he was getting into. I had to explain things to him at first at how much he would really be away from me, and our kids once we had them, and he didn't believe me until it really happened the way I said it would. I was friends with NJROTC people who went on to the military and also with other military personel along with being involved with above said Marine and having a (now ex) boyfriend's cousin in the military and I got to ask him questions about normally my biggest advice is "suck it up, you knew he was in the military before you married him" or for those that got in AFTER they were married "suck it up, you supported his decision to join"...I'm quite mean and blunt when it comes to that. I have gotten better now that I have kids and understand more of the hardships through them...but a lot of the MilSpouses I've 2 year old has taken underways and stuff better than they's quite sad.

Thursday, March 17, 2011

Reverse Thinking

I found this through the Christ The King Elder's blog this morning. It was forwarded to them by a member of our church, Dawn Kropla.

I watched this, and as I did, I realized how well it summed me up in my teenage years.

I was born and raised Catholic. When I was 15 I was raped by one of my best friends. I halted and backpedaled in my belief of/in God. If he could let that happen to me, he must not be real and if he was real, he must not truly love me.

The reverse thinking came into play when I was 18 and started going to church with Josh. I had already started going back to the Catholic church with my Pipi while my Mimi was sick. One week I decided I would go to church with Josh instead. I was completely hooked on his church from that first week. The sermon touched me and I had an overwhelming feeling of belonging and understanding. I knew I needed to be in that church in order to live a happy and truly full life.

I started going to their membership classes soon after and when I was 19 I was confirmed into the church. We have only missed a handful of services since I started going at 18. Josh had stopped going to church before he met me also, and he says he was happy that I came into his life and got him to go back to church. My first church with him was Zion Lutheran Church in Monroe, MI. We came back to the Lord there, I was confirmed there, making me a member of the church, we were married there, we go there when we're back in Michigan. Our second church we attended was a mission church in Summerville, SC called Beautiful Savior. I never felt as close to the members of that church, but we went every week regardless and also participated in their different fellowship activities. We are now members of Christ the King Lutheran in Bremerton, WA. This church welcomed us and felt like home from the first time we stepped foot in it. The members here were part of the decision making process for Josh and I to buy a house and stay here after he gets out of the Navy (we took the church and the members into consideration when we were making the decision, we didn't really talk much to them about it, but just let our feelings towards them guide us).

We have grown close to a few members and I consider them truly a part of my family. There are others that I wish we were closer to, and it's mostly my fault for not putting myself out there and inviting them over more and asking them to go out with us more. I need to work on that aspect of my relationships, I also feel it may be because at least one of those couples doesn't have kids and we do mainly kid-geared activities. I don't want them to get bored with us or frustrated with us and our kids when they get unruly. I need to get out of that mindset and just go for it anyway.

In the end, I just had to share this video. These were my beliefs when I was 15 and the reverse thinking is when I started going to a WELS church. I am thankful to God for pointing me in the right direction without me even knowing it.

Friday Fill In!

Yes, it's that time again! Time for Wifey's (at Wife of A Sailor) MilSpouse Friday Fill In! Can't wait! This week has some good questions from other MilSpouse Bloggers! Here we go!!!!

1. What are some of your ideas for staying connected with know, those people we moved thousands of miles away from? submitted by Live it. Love it (or not). Write About It.
We stay connected through Facebook and phone calls. We send cards when we can, especially during special days (anniversaries, birthdays, Christmas, etc.) I also have a account to upload and send photos to them of my little munchkins.

2. What's the most romantic gift you have GIVEN? submitted by Painting My Canvas
My husband and I aren't too romantic, but our first Valentine's Day of our married life, I made a Lasagna dinner for him and our 3 closest friends (2 married with their wives still not there, and one who was single). I had it ready for when they got home. I served them and one else had to lift a finger. I think that's as romantic as I get.

3. Would you encourage your child, if they came to you and wanted to join the military? submitted by Perfectly Imperfect
I will support my children in anything they want to do. I may not be thrilled, but if it's what they truly want, I want it for them.

4. What is your least favorite bill to pay and why? submitted by A Little of This, A Little of That
Even though it gives me a roof over my head, I hate paying my mortgage. I also hate paying my car loan. The reason is because of how much it is. My BAH doesn't even cover just my mortgage...but it's a house we can grow with. We're even thinking of saving up to add on a second story so we can stay here even longer.

5. What is the proudest moment you've had as a military spouse? submitted by Our Okinawa Life
I think the last time my hubby came home was my proudest moment. I got to be pierside with our kids. My son was 8 weeks old and the first time he saw his daddy. I was proud because of how excited and happy and proud my husband was of his son and the rest of his little family. I was proud because he held up for 8 weeks underway away from his little boy. It broke his heart when he couldn't be with me during the delivery of him, he knew others were able to stay or be brought home when their wives went into labor. He still feels bad for missing it and not being there for me even though I continuously tell him it's okay and it's just part of being a military family.

Does that really count as a proud moment?

Friday, March 4, 2011

Friday Mil-Spouse Fill In!

Thank you Wifey for hosting this meme! I love when I can get here and do them!

1. Do you or your {spouse} ever wish your {spouse} was in a different branch of the military? submitted by The Turner Family
I actually wanted to join the Navy myself, so I'm perfectly happy with the Navy life. Hubby actually wanted to join the Coast Guard before considering the Navy. I don't know if he would be happier there or not. I just honestly don't think the military is for him, regardless of the branch he's in.

2. What duty station(s) are on your “No Way, Hell No, Not Going, Have Fun Unaccompanied” list and why? submitted by Every Branch
I have nothing of the like. We are a family and I married him when he was becoming a sailor. I knew there would be places I wouldn't like and places I would love. I am there to support him through anything, no matter where he is stationed. That's part of being a military wife.

3. If you could be one age forever, what age would you choose and why? submitted by Three Krakens
I love different ages for different reasons. I loved high school because of how I looked. I loved 21 because that's when I got married. I loved 24 because that's when I had my beautiful daughter, 26 because that's when I had my son. I loved being a young child so I could be carefree and not have responsibilities. There is a perk to every age I've ever been and ever will be.

4. If you were a breakfast cereal, which one would you be? submitted by the C.W.
I think Lucky Charms just because it's my favorite cereal and has been ever since I was little. I am liking Cinnamon Life a lot more and still love Cinnamon Toast Crunch and Captain Crunch like any of those really.

5. What is your morning beverage of choice and why? submitted by NH Girl Displaced
I usually drink milk with my daughter. The more she sees me drink it, the more she wants it. So, if it makes her healthy I'll do it! If I do one of my own choice, it's usually hot tea (chamomile is my choice for the most part) or Hot Chocolate.